Cartea prezinta 9 tipuri de seducatori, 18 tipuri de victime si 4 faze ale procesului de seductie. Pentru a-si formula si defini ideile, scriitorul foloseste exemple de personalitati istorice si politice consacrate, cum ar fi:
* aventurierul italian Giacomo Casanova
* politicianul american John F. Kennedy
* frumoasa regina Cleopatra
* compozitorul si pianistul american Duke Ellington
Desi pare un subiect usor la prima vedere, adevarul este ca in spatele seductiei se afla motive ce tin de domeniul psihologiei si sociologiei. Seductia implica atat putere si manipulare, cat si romantism si ideea de a reusi sa faci pe cineva sa se indragosteasca de tine.
Cele 9 tipuri de seducatori se aplica atat la femei, cat si la barbati.
Modelele de videochat pot adopta si practica unul sau mai multe tipuri de seducatori, sau pot la fel de bine sa intalneasca pe site-uri membri care detin aceste calitati.
1. The Siren
- te captiveaza, te atrage in mod inexplicabil - desi constientizezi faptul ca nu ti se potriveste, nu poti inlatura atractia;
- este unic - a rare thing; se evidentiaza;
- partea fizica este foarte importanta;
- vestimentatia reprezinta un element esential.
Faimoasa Marylin Monroe avea o voce de copil, pe care o folosea tocmai in scopul de a seduce. Vorbea calm, nu se grabea, reusind astfel sa stimuleze interesul oamenilor din jurul ei. Se misca cu gratie, insa in acelasi timp miscarile ei erau ambigue - nimeni nu stia ce urmeaza sa faca.
A man is often secretly oppressed by the role he has to play-by always having to be responsible, in control, and rational. The Siren is the ultimate male fantasy figure because she offers a total release from the limitations of his life. In her presence, which is always heightened and sexually charged, the male feels transported to a world of pure pleasure. She is dangerous, and in pursuing her energetically the man can lose control over himself, something he yearns to do. The Siren is a mirage; she lures men by cultivating a particular appearance and manner. In a world where women are often too timid to project such an image, learn to take control of the male libido by embodying his fantasy.
2. The Rake
- atractie fatala: este irezistibil de atragator, rebel si cu o latura periculoasa, dar pe care nu o afiseaza public. De obicei, femeile cele mai timide si cuminti sunt atrase de el;
- nu conteaza cate femei a cucerit, continua sa faca acelasi lucru;
- cu toate ca a cucerit multe femei, este fidel - trasatura contradictorie;
- este atras de pericol, risc, obscuritate si intuneric - behind the scenes; el insusi este un amestec interesant de pericol, pasiune si placere;
- este sarcastic si acid - cu cat este mai acid, cu atat devine mai atragator.
A woman never quite feels desired and appreciated enough. She wants attention, but a man is too often distracted and unresponsive. The Rake is a great female fantasy-figure-when he desires a woman, brief though that moment may be, he will go to the ends of the earth for her. He may be disloyal, dishonest, and amoral, but that only adds to his appeal. Unlike the normal, cautious male, the Rake is delightfully unrestrained, a slave to his love of women. There is the added lure of his reputation: so many women have succumbed to him, there has to be a reason. Words are a woman's weakness, and the Rake is a master of seductive language. Stir a woman's repressed longings by adapting the Rake's mix of danger and pleasure.
3. The Ideal Lover
- este un tip de seducator intalnit foarte rar in lumea moderna;
- da dovada de efort in ceea ce priveste cucerirea unei femei;
- poseda abilitatea de a observa detaliile si lucrurile subtile;
- este puternic - este oare puterea un subiect tabu in zilele noastre?!
- te face sa te simti libera, increzatoare si puternica;
- este devotat;
- femeia ocupa locul principal in viata sa.
Most people have dreams in their youth that get shattered or worn down with age. They find themselves disappointed by people, events, reality, which cannot match their youthful ideals. Ideal Lovers thrive on people's broken dreams, which become lifelong fantasies. You long for romance? Adventure? Lofty spiritual communion? The Ideal Lover reflects your fantasy. He or she is an artist in creating the illusion you require, idealizing your portrait. In a world of disenchantment and baseness, there is limitless seductive power in following the path of the Ideal Lover.
4. The Dandy
- exista de foarte mult timp;
- este feminin, cochet, seduce foarte multe femei in acelasi timp; modalitatea de a seduce imbina 2 planuri: social si sexual;
- reprezinta o prezenta placuta: a rare and beautiful flower;
- nu este niciodata vulgar;
- sigur pe el;
- oamenii vor sa il imite;
- stilul unic al vestimentatiei reprezinta un punct definitoriu, ce il deosebeste de ceilalti;
- obiect al fascinatiei;
- traieste pentru placere;
- pentru el viata = arta;
- sugereaza o anumita tensiune sexuala.
Intr-o lume in care femeile nu stiu ce gandesc barbatii si vice-versa, singurul lucru sigur este ca incearca sa se inteleaga reciproc, cautandu-se neincetat.
Most of us feel trapped within the limited roles that the world expects us to play. We are instantly attracted to those who are more fluid, more ambiguous, than we are-those who create their own persona. Dandies excite us because they cannot be categorized, and hint at a freedom we want for ourselves. They play with masculinity and femininity; they create their own physical image, which is always startling; they are mysterious and elusive. They also appeal to the narcissism of each sex: to a woman they are psychologically female, to a man they are male. Dandies fascinate and seduce in large numbers. Use the power of the Dandy to create an ambiguous, alluring presence that stirs repressed desires.
5. The Natural
- nu se teme de nimeni si de nimic; cu toate acestea, are un aer vulnerabil si neajutorat - tocmai de aceea reuseste sa atraga un numar impresionant de femei;
- foloseste aspectul fizic/imaginea in propriul avantaj;
- trimite sageti cu tenta rautacioasa, insa nici o persoana nu se supara pe el, deoarece este mult prea amabil si inocent.
Childhood is the golden paradise we are always consciously or unconsciously trying to re-create. The Natural embodies the longed-for qualities of childhood-spontaneity, sincerity, unpretentiousness. In the presence of Naturals, we feel at ease, caught up in their playful spirit, transported back to that golden age. Naturals also make a virtue out of weakness, eliciting our sympathy for their trials, making us want to protect them and help them. As with a child, much of this is natural, but some of it is exaggerated, a conscious seductive maneuver. Adopt the pose of the Natural to neutralize people's natural defensiveness and infect them with helpless delight.
6. The Coquette
- are un succes foarte mare, mai cu seama pe plan sexual;
- atrage victimele pe plan emotional, folosindu-se subtil de calitatile pe care le detine;
- este detasat;
- se iubeste pe el insusi foarte mult;
- nu este niciodata gelos, insa reuseste sa determine victima sa fie geloasa - este modul lui de a cuceri;
- stimuleaza dragostea, gelozia, devotamentul si implicarea intr-o relatie - playing people's emotions like a piano;
- foloseste distanta fizica in avantajul celei emotionale.
Sigmund Freud si Napoleon Bonaparte au fost seducatori coquette convinsi.
The ability to delay satisfaction is the ultimate art of seduction-while waiting, the victim is held in thrall. Coquettes are the grand masters of this game, orchestrating a back-and-forth movement between hope and frustration. They bait with the promise of reward-the hope of physical pleasure, happiness, fame by association, power-which, however, proves elusive; yet this only makes their targets pursue them the more. Coquettes seem totally self-sufficient: they do not need you, they seem to say, and their narcissism proves devilishly attractive. You want to conquer them but they hold the cards. The strategy of the Coquette is never to offer total satisfaction. Imitate the alternating heat and coolness of the Coquette and you will keep the seduced at your heels.
7. The Charmer
- este indulgent, subtil, insa comunica foarte mult;
- nu critica niciodata direct, ci doar insinueaza;
- foloseste sarmul ca pe un fel de hipnoza - difuse glow;
- dovedeste siguranta de sine, calm si rabdare.
Charm is seduction without sex. Charmers are consummate manipulators, masking their cleverness by creating a mood of pleasure and comfort. Their method is simple: they deflect attention from themselves and focus it on their target. They understand your spirit, feel your pain, adapt to your moods. In the presence of a Charmer you feel better about yourself. Charmers do not argue or fight, complain or pester-what could be more seductive? By drawing you in with their indulgence they make you dependent on them, and their power grows. Learn to cast the Charmer's spell by aiming at people's primary weaknesses: vanity and self-esteem.
8. The Charismatic
- aventuros, curajos, isi asuma riscurile;
- seduce si abandoneaza;
- nu pare sa depuna prea mult efort;
- imbina scopul, planul si directia, dovedind astfel deplina siguranta de sine;
- misterul este exprimat gradual prin contradictie -serenity and mystery - intim vs. distant; cruel vs. kind; contrastul este devastator de senzual, erotic si puternic;
- mizeaza pe cuvinte si elocventa;
- ochii lui exprima totul, fara a fi nevoit sa vorbeasca; ochii sunt ca un magnet;
- nu exprima niciodata frica sau emotii; dimpotriva - emana carisma, un atribut foarte important.
Un sfat important: Practica efectul pe care ti-l doresti!
Charisma is a presence that excites us. It comes from an inner quality-self-confidence, sexual energy, sense of purpose, contentment-that most people lack and want. This quality radiates outward, permeating the gestures of Charismatics, making them seem extraordinary and superior, and making us imagine there is more to them than meets the eye: they are gods, saints, stars. Charismatics can learn to heighten their charisma with a piercing gaze, fiery oratory, an air of mystery. They can seduce on a grand scale. Learn to create the charismatic illusion by radiating intensity while remaining detached.
9. The Star
- dintre cele 9 tipuri de seducatori, este de departe cel mai important;
- are o fata misterioasa; starneste curiozitatea;
- implica un narcisism fizic si psihologic;
- da impresia ca poate fi citit ca pe o carte deschisa, insa lasa loc interpretarilor - nu poti sti ce pune la cale, ce sugereaza, ce insinueaza;
- in mod inconstient, detaliile fac diferenta;
Toate persoanele isi doresc o atmosfera de seductie, tanjind dupa acel ceva enigmatic, extrem de rar in zilele noastre.
Daily life is harsh, and most of us constantly seek escape from it in fantasies and dreams. Stars feed on this weakness; standing out from others through a distinctive and appealing style, they make us want to watch them. At the same time, they are vague and ethereal, keeping their distance, and letting us imagine more than is there. Their dreamlike quality works on our unconscious; we are not even aware how much we imitate them. Learn to become an object of fascination by projecting the glittering but elusive presence of the Star.
*** Fiecare persoana poate alege sa fie unul dintre cele 9 tipuri de seducatori, in functie de preferinte, conjunctura, situatie si persoanele de care este inconjurata. Indiferent de ceea ce alegeti sa fiti, trebuie sa tineti cont de un singur lucru: sa nu cadeti in plasa unui alt tip de seducator, adoptandu-i metodele de cucerire: The Anti-Seducer, diametral opus celor 9 tipuri - puteti cadea in dizgratie, dand dovada de lipsa de diplomatie, eleganta. Nu uitati sa fiti cerebrali, pastrandu-va energia pozitiva, entuziasmul si dorinta de cucerire.
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